Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Problems...What Problems?!

Imagine yourself being a kid going to school. What problems do you face at that age? What are your main concerns at that tender age? Homeworks,books,pencil, recess, play,exams, parents pressure, peer pressure? Arent these enough to burden a tender mind? But in addition to that , just imagine that you have 6 fingers on your one hand. What happens to you? You are isolated and probably subjected to jeers, constant teasing and stuff. And as if it was not enough, you have a stammering problem; speech impediment. You are gone.. You get merciless remarks that constantly hit your tender psyche and hurt your self esteem so much that it gets impossible for you to make up your mind to get up in the morning and go to school and face the music every hour of that day...for another day.
Somehow,time flies by. You grow up. And so does your problems. You want to be an actor, but you cant even say it clearly in one go and stammeringly blabber :"I wwwwaant to bbbee an accccto". You probably feel distressed that how can you be an actor when you cant even say it; keeping in mind that dialogue delivery to an actor is like breathing--utmost important.You cant even say a one liner,forget the lengthy ones that attract the most applause.
An actor should talk,dance and fight in a movie.As if talking wasnt a big a problem, fate has in store a deformity named scoliosis for you. You are just 21 and you cant dance,workout or over exert in any form, because scoliosis has left your spinal chord twisted in an unnatural way. And if you dare to venture, the doctor says, you are going to spend the rest of your life on a wheel chair.
Damn, what do you think at that time?--" Why me?"--"Fate is to be blamed.Am I supposed to bear all the possible troubles,of all people on earth?"
OR...do you think,"Its worth to die trying what you love to do rather than live all life regretting!"
Hrithik Roshan thought it that way. Yes, he was the subject of all these problems written above.



He lived through it. And now he is what we all know of--successful actor, among the top dancing stars, with unmatched physique-role model for many. But many are unaware of the obstacles he faced in life. I know what you are thinking. How was that mountain of the obstacles conquered?
How come he is now what he is?
The answer is simple..Unrelenting Determination. He wasnt transformed by magic in one night viz Cinderella. He wasnt touched by the miraculous "jadoo" like in one of his own movie.


He faced the problem,head on.By Practise Practise Practise, he acquired the talents he is known for.He admits of practising speaking for one hour every day ,even today. He didnt run away from his problems,which would have been easy and nobody would have blamed. But that way he would not have lived the life he wanted to. Instead he faced and triumphed over many mental and physical impediments.

History is full of examples of man surmounting mountains of obstacles and coming out triumphed. But its not there for us only to sit and admire. Its there for us to feel that if they could do it,so can we, in our own respective lives and become part of that glorious history ourselves. Why? Its not impossible.

Wouldnt it be nice friends that your friend says about you to somebody.."You know that he/she is in this/that place. He/she is now what he/she wanted to be. thats great." Your example would be given during coffee table chats, get togethers etc. But what would satisfy you most would be the fact that you are leading 'your' life now--thats what you wanted. So whats stopping us?
Problems.?...What problems!! :-)





Adios
Anurag









Monday, November 23, 2009

A Masterpiece

This post is dedicated to Sachin's inning against Aussi in Hybad where he scored 175 but failed by an inch to take India to victory........I am sorry for posting it so late though I drafted it the very next day of the match....

Hats off to the Maestro…for an inning that was full ofBlitzkrieg…given another chance he wud have gone scoring 17000 more runs in the same innings…Reminded me the match where SA outlasted Aussies scoring 438 runs…Gibbs scored 175 in that match…had it been the SA team with Sachin( means Sachin + remaining 10 SA players) we would have registered an convincing victory over Aussis may be with 5 over to go and 4 wickets to spare…..I am feeling jealous of all those Hydrabadis who witnessed this veteran player playing his best ever knock…Way back in 2001 after my 10th….I went to Indore for Ind vs.Aus Match…In that match..Sachin scored 139 and completed his 10000runs in ODI…At that time I thot nothing can be better this…But Sachin left no stone unturned to prove me wrong…and believe me no one wouldbe happier than me that he did it in this style.

This match was the actual test of everyone’s caliber…. first… fiftytired over on ground...Don’t forget Aussi scored 350…hitting the ballto every possible corner of ground and then chasing that with equalzeal…The man was standing at the crease like the Rock of Gibraltar where as his counter parts were falling like a pack of cards… U musthave seen some fabulous innings from other Indians… Yuvi’selegance…Dhoni’s Bombarding…Viru’s Drive…Gambhir’s temperament… He eclipsed them all…I wish it could have been his day...I wish it could have been India’s day…but I cannot speak beyond would or could…in fact no one can.

But full credit to Aussi team for keeping their nerves till theend…and believing more on Indians than on themselves…Look at the side…India…playing with their best 11 and Aussie 5 players are already ontheir way towards home…And Ponting’s fielding…mind blowing…had it been his day on the field…god knows the difference with which we wud have lost the match…It was just another bad day at office forIndians.

I cannot forget the felicitation ceremony where the Legend cud hardlystop the tears coming out of his eyes…. and accepted the fact that Win or Lose a part of GAME.

As it is rightly said….”Commit all your crimes while Sachin is batting….and you won’t be punished…Coz even God wud have gone to watch him bat….”

Abhi

Monday, November 16, 2009

Managing Career & Expectations

Hi Friends,
Came across one inspirational mail which is actually a speech by Tata Sons director
Mr. R. Gopalakrishnan at one of the IIMs.
There is a Thai saying that experience is a comb which Nature gives to manafter he is bald. As I grow bald, I would like to share my comb with you.

1. Seek out grassroots level experience
I studied Physics and Engineering at University. A few months beforegraduation, I appeared for an HLL interview for Computer Traineeship. Whenasked whether I would consider Marketing instead of Computers, I respondednegatively : an engineer to visit grocery shops to sell Dalda or Lifebuoy?Gosh, no way. After I joined the Company and a couple of comfortable weeksin the swanky Head Office, I was given a train ticket to go to Nasik. WouldI please meet Mr. Kelkar to whom I would be attached for the next twomonths? He would teach me to work as a salesman in his territory, whichincluded staying in Kopargaon and Pimpalgaon among other small towns. I wasmost upset. In a town called Ozhar, I was moving around from shop to shopwith a bullock cart full of products and a salesman's folder in my hand.Imagine my embarrassment when an IIT friend appeared in front of me inOzhar, believe it or not! And exclaimed, "Gopal, I thought you joined as aManagement Trainee in Computers". I could have died a thousand deaths.After this leveling experience, I was less embarrassed to work as aDispatch Clerk in the Company Depot and an Invoice Clerk in the AccountsDepartment. Several years later, I realised the value of such grassrootslevel experience. It is fantastic. I would advise young people to seek outnail-dirtying, collar-soiling, shoe-wearing tasks. That is how you learnabout organizations, about the true nature of work, and the dignity of themany, many tasks that go into building great enterprises.

2. Deserve before you desire
At one stage, I was appointed as the Brand Manager for Lifebuoy and Pearssoap, the company's most popular-priced and most premium soaps. And whatwas a Brand Manager? "A mini-businessman, responsible for the production,sales and profits of the brand, accountable for its long-term growth, etc.,etc. I had read those statements, I believed them and here I was, at 27,"incharge of everything". But very soon, I found I could not move a pinwithout checking with my seniors. One evening, after turning the Facitmachine handle through various calculations, I sat in front of theMarketing Director. I expressed my frustration and gently asked whether Icould not be given total charge. He smiled benignly and said, "Theperception and reality are both right. You will get total charge when youknow more about the brand than anyone else in this company about itsformulation, the raw materials, the production costs, the consumer'sperception, the distribution and so on. How long do you think that it willtake?" "Maybe, ten years", I replied, "and I don't expect to be theLifebuoy and Pears Brand Manager for so long"! And then suddenly, thelesson was clear. I was desiring total control, long before I deserved it.This happens to us all the time - in terms of responsibilities, in terms ofpostings and promotions, it happens all the time that there is a gapbetween our perception of what we deserve and the reality of what we get.It helps to deserve before we desire.

3. Play to win but win with fairness
Life is competitive and of course, you play to win. But think about thebalance. Will you do anything, to win? Perhaps not. Think deeply about howand where you draw the line. Each person draws it differently, and in doingso, it helps to think about values. Winning without values provides dubiousfulfillment. The leaders who have contributed the most are the ones with aset of universal values! V Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King forexample. Napoleon inspired a ragged, mutinous and half-starved army tofight and seize power. This brought him name and fame for twenty years. Butall the while, he was driven forward by a selfish and evil ambition, andnot in pursuit of a great ideal. He finally fell because of his selfishambition. I am fond of referring to the Pierre de Coubertin Fair PlayTrophy. It was instituted in 1964 by the founder of the modern OlympicGames and here are two examples of winners. A Hungarian tennis player whopleaded with the umpire to give his opponent some more time to recover froma cramp. A British kayak team who were trailing the Danish kayak team. Theythen stopped to help the Danish team whose boat was stuck. The Danes wenton to beat the British by one second in a three hour event! What wonderfulexamples of sportsmanship! Play to Win, but with Fairness.

4. Enjoy whatever you do
Sir Thomas Lipton is credited with the statement, "There is no greater funthan hard work". You usually excel in fields, which you truly enjoy. Askany person what it is that interferes with his enjoyment of existence. Hewill say, "The struggle for life". What he probably means is the strugglefor success. Unless a person has learnt what to do with success aftergetting it, the very achievement of it must lead him to unhappiness.Aristotle wrote, "Humans seek happiness as an end in itself, not as a meansto something else". But if you think about it, we should not work forhappiness. We should work as happy people. In organizational life, peopleget busy doing something to be happy. The more you try to be happy, themore unhappy you can get. Your work and career is all about you’re reachingyour full potential. Working at one's full potential, whether it is theoffice boy or the Chairman, leads to enjoyment and fulfillment. A lastpoint about enjoyment. Keep a sense of humor about yourself. Too manypeople are in danger of taking themselves far too seriously. As General JoeStilwell is reported to have said, "Keep smiling. The higher the monkeyclimbs, the more you can see of his backside".

5. Be Passionate about your health
Of course, as you get older, you would have a slight paunch, graying ofhair or loss of it and so on. But it is in the first 5 - 7 years after theworking career begins that the greatest neglect of youthful health occurs.Sportsmen stop playing sports, non drinkers drink alcohol, light smokerssmoke more, active people sit on chairs, and starving inmates of hostelseat rich food in good hotels and so on. These are the years to watch. Donot, I repeat do not, convince yourself that you are too busy, or that youdo not have access to facilities, or worst of all, that you do this torelieve the stresses of a professional career. A professional career isindeed very stressful. There is only one person who can help you to copewith the tension, avoid the doctor's scalpel, and to feel good each morning- and that is yourself. God has given us as good a health as He has, a bitlike a credit balance in the bank. Grow it, maintain it, but do not allowits value destruction. The penalty is very high in later years.

6. Direction is more important than distance
Every golfer tries to drive the ball to a very long distance. In theprocess, all sorts of mistakes occur because the game involves the masterlyco-ordination of several movements simultaneously. The golf coach alwaysadvises that direction is more important than distance. So it is with life.Despite one's best attempts, there will be ups and downs. It isrelationships and friendships that enable a person to navigate the choppywaters that the ship of life will encounter. When I was young, there was amemorable film by Frank Capra, starring James Stewart and Dona Reed, andnamed IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE. It is about a man who is about to commitsuicide because he thinks he is a failure. An angel is sent to rescue him.The bottom line of the film is that "No Man is a Failure Who Has Friends".

Conclusion:My generation will never be twenty again, but when you are older, you canand should be different from my generation. Ours is a great and wonderfulcountry, and realizing her true potential in the global arena depends everso much on the quality and persistence of our young people.Good luck in your journey, my young friends, and God be with you.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

IF ...

Hi Friends!
Came across an inspirational piece of poetry written by Rudyard Kipling ,written in 1896; quite relevant even today! :


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;


If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;


If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";


If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!


The poem's line, "If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two impostors just the same" is written on the wall of the centre court players' entrance at the British tennis tournament, Wimbledon.

Absorb..

Anurag

Parable of The Pencil .... Good One !!!

Hi All,
Just wanted to share one article with you all. It is very nice. Hope you all will like it.
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The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.

"There are 5 things you need to know," he told the pencil, "Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be."

"One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone's hand."

"Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil."

"Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make."

"Four: The most important part of you will always be what's inside."

"And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write."

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.

Now, replacing the place of the pencil with Us. Lets always, remember them and never forget, and each of us can become the best person one can be.

One: We will be able to do many great things, but only if we allow ourselves to be held in God's hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: We will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but We'll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: We will be able to correct any mistakes We might make.

Four: The most important part of Us will always be what's inside Us – The Soul!

And Five: On every surface We walk through, We must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, We must continue to do your duties.

Let’s allow this parable of the pencil to encourage us to know that each of us is a special person and only we can fulfill the purpose for which we are born!
Let’s never allow ourselves to get discouraged and think that our life is insignificant and cannot make a change. Each of have the potential to make a difference … So let’s start Now!!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Joy Of Giving!!

I know what you thinking!! Ok! So we give everyday. So why make a big deal about it??!!?? Right??

Well, I personally think it's time we made a big deal. How many of us consciously give something in a month or a year? And if we do, most of us never talk about it and hence giving is probably not a culture in us. It's time we changed that.

Now, don't get me wrong! I am not asking you to give away something big. Even a smile will do.

This Saturday and Sunday some of us plan to walk the streets of Mumbai and simply smile at anyone we make eye contact with :-)

I invite you all to join this "Chain of Smile"

Cheers
Happy Giving!!

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Mahashweta


One day I came across one article which was about the success story of Chief of Infosys Mr. Narayan Murthy. After reading that article I realized that his wife Mrs. Sudha Murthy had a great contribution in his success. It then inspired me to read books written by her which made me a die heart fan of Mrs. Sudha Murthy. Many people must be aware of her famous book Wise and Otherwise.
Recently I read one of her novel named as Mahashweta....This is a story of a very beautiful, courageous girl Anupama who suffers from leukoderma, after her marriage. The person suffering from leukoderma has white patches on their body which can be cured by proper medical treatment.
But the people from small villages and from hypocritical society considers it as a curse and treats the person very badly.
Same thing happens with Anupama which changed her life completely…She didn’t get support from her in-laws and her parents, even from her husband who is himself a doctor by profession and he knew that this is curable disease…. she gets rejected by her in-laws, her step-mother, her husband and society where she used to stay before and after her marriage…..she decides to quit her life and attempts for a suicide but then she realized that her life is not for all these things and she should not waste her life in such a way….then she left her home and starts life in a new perspective….
The book states the story of her struggle. Writer has portrayed many aspects of society like village life, hypocritical society, arrange marriages, dominating mother-in-law , cursing step-mother, helping friends…..
This book has affected life of many people. Writer states her experience where she is invited for marriage of one unknown girl suffering from leukoderma. Her marriage was almost broken and then bridegroom changed his opinion after reading this book and accepts girl as wife. This is truly a inspirational story for many such Anupama in our society. The moral of the story is you can change your life if you believe in yourself.


Cheers,
Gauri